That’s not a word I would ever have used to describe myself, yet it’s the word someone who knows me better than I know myself used. I’ve been called sensitive (too sensitive). I’ve been called creative, eclectic, eccentric and emotional. I’ve been called humorous, funny, quick-witted and clever. I’ve been described as bizarre, silly, and childish. I’ve been told I was impetuous, impulsive and spontaneous. But delicate?
I am a marshmallow. When it comes to animals, kids and chick-flicks, I am a marshmallow. I will even cry at a Budweiser commercial. I do feel other people’s happiness and their sadness. I am definitely the great empathizer.
When I used to be pre-menstrual and then later post-menstrual, I was certainly able to cry at the smallest things. I do react to hormones and chemicals. I am human.
Physical pain doesn’t bother me. I’ve had my share. I’ve had brain surgery that resulted in a mild seizure disorder. I have a chronic condition that keeps me in physical pain most of the time. I’ve torn my ankle in half due to a racquetball injury, and when it’s going to rain, I know it. I’ve had a tumor the size of an orange grow and then be removed from under my arm, and then one the size of a tangerine do the same from behind my kneecap. I’ve given birth twice through cesarean section. I have osteo-arthritis in my spine, and psoriatic arthritis in my knees and elbows. So, no, physical pain does not render me delicate.
When I looked up the word delicate in the Thesaurus, I found words like subtle, faint, tactful, refined, fragile, weak, frail, insubstantial, graceful, and elegant. I see myself more like all of the antonyms: robust, straightforward, coarse, rugged and passionate.
Words are powerful. At first, I was offended by the use of that word. Offended is a strong word. I was slightly insulted, because I saw it as a sign of weakness, but in retrospect, I’d rather be delicate than overpowering, tactless, inelegant and rough. And if you don’t mind, I’m still going to cry at those mushy commercials.